At Gooding Funeral Services, we often see how music and readings become the most memorable elements of a farewell. They provide comfort, reflect the character of the person who has died, and bring together everyone who gathers to remember them. Choosing can sometimes feel overwhelming, so here are some suggestions to help you make choices that feel both personal and meaningful.
Why Music and Readings Matter
The right words or melodies give structure and emotional depth to a funeral. They can be solemn, uplifting, or quietly reflective, depending on what best represents the life being honoured. A reading might share a timeless truth from scripture, or a simple poem about memory. A song could capture someone’s faith, culture, or even their sense of humour.
Approaching Music Choices
Most services have three natural points where music feels fitting:
- Entry: Gentle, familiar, or welcoming music helps people settle into the service.
- During the service: Families may choose hymns, devotional songs, or personal favourites. In Sikh funerals, for example, shabads (hymns) from the Guru Granth Sahib may be sung, while Hindu services often include bhajans or chants.
- Exit: This moment can feel either peaceful or uplifting. Some Caribbean families choose gospel music or lively soul tracks that reflect joy in celebrating a life well-lived.
Mixing tradition with individuality is common. A hymn might sit alongside a reggae track, or a bhajan may be followed by a classical instrumental. What matters most is that the choices reflect the person being remembered
Readings That Resonate
Readings can take many forms. Families often consider:
- Scripture: Passages from the Bible, Bhagavad Gita, or Guru Granth Sahib can express faith and continuity.
- Poetry: Short verses about memory or love work well, especially for non-religious services.
- Personal writings: A letter, diary entry, or tribute written by a family member can feel especially intimate.
It’s worth thinking about who delivers the reading. In some traditions, a priest, granthi, or pandit will lead. In other services, a relative or celebrant may speak.
Balancing Heritage and Personality
Funeral services often bring together different generations and communities. Some people want familiar prayers, while others prefer something less formal. For example, it’s not unusual to combine a traditional Caribbean hymn with a contemporary poem, or to include both a Hindu mantra and a favourite piece of Western classical music. A blended approach ensures the service honours heritage while remaining true to the person’s individuality.
Practical Considerations
- Venue and equipment: Ensure recordings or live music can be accommodated.
- Timing: Keep an eye on how long each piece lasts to maintain a steady flow.
- Family input: If several people are involved in planning, try to include elements that respect each person’s perspective.
When You’re Unsure
If the person who has died didn’t leave specific wishes, draw inspiration from everyday life. Think about what they listened to at home, sang in religious gatherings, or enjoyed on long car journeys. In our work with Asian and Caribbean families in Leeds and beyond, we’ve seen how even one familiar hymn, chant, or piece of music can spark shared memories and comfort.
Winding Up
There is no single ‘right’ choice of music or readings for a funeral. The best selections are those that feel authentic and help people connect with the memory of the person they’ve lost. At Gooding Funeral Services, we’re here to guide you through the process—whether that means suggesting a bhajan, a gospel hymn, or a favourite family song that has always brought people together.
